When I arrived back in the DR from my trip home, I slipped back into a rhythm of midday work and evening walks to the estadio in the days leading to my birthday. Books edit suggestions consumed my thoughts most days as we moved through the copyediting stage. This was the middle of the month. January began in NYC surrounded by my closest friends and ended with a once-in-my-lifetime birthday celebration. Lots of contrasts were plopped on my scales and tipped occasionally out of equilibrium during those in-between moments, but I am very skilled at balancing things.

Birthday dinner with my dad and sisters
Before I left for the DR, my mom hosted a small birthday dinner. Three of my sisters who live in the city came, along with two family friends, and two of my friends from college. Socially, it was a bit like a see-saw: on one end, family and friends from home and forever, then, on the other, friends I made in a completely different context and situation. I balanced in the middle, and it was awesome.
After the age of eighteen or so, you lose that quick-stitch connection introduced by a shared lexicon. When I first moved away from home, I abandoned familiarity and became an unknown. But this is necessary, and what follows is usually very wonderful and important. What followed was a life I built on my own merit and in my own way. Belmont provided the ground for that, and when I let my friends meet my family, it’s another plank in the bridge from Nashville to my first home…it’s a bit more difficult to build a metaphorical bridge from Nashville to the Caribbean islands, you know, mostly due to ocean and everything. However, I am willing to engineer an architectural marvel if given the chance.
Without a bridge, moving away transforms you into an unknown again—but that’s half the thrill. After four years in Nashville, I feel known there. After seven months in the DR, I am not quite known there yet, which is part of it. There’s this sort of secret adventure and life for me in the DR right now, and as I traveled back to the DR from Christmas, I wondered how the two experiences—Nashville and DR—would connect in the future. The next time I return to Nashville, it will be a one-way ticket.
Year 23 would be a brand-new birthday in more ways than one: first one post-grad, first one where I wouldn’t see at least one family member, first one in a foreign country, and first one where it was warm outside! Last year as a 22-year-old was no doubt the most eventual year of my life. Now, 23 is a year of doors undiscovered and unopened; of curiously gazing out of backseat windows, wondering where I’m headed. I am not much of a geoguessr, but I am an easygoing passenger.
Estoy tratando de ser más tranquila y simplemente disfrutar de todo.
On the 24th, the eve of my birthday, my roommate Helina and I went to “Oh La La Experience,” which is an air-conditioned restaurant we like. Back at the house, unbeknownst to me, all the girls at Casa Universidad y Casa de Paz were preparing for my surprise party! The projector was set up for karaoke and dancing, nachos were plated, balloons strung in an arch, and gold streamers taped beneath. I had a yummy pastel de dulce de leche and when I walked through the door, I was beyond surprised!
It was very warming. The whole thing.
A new energy came over me, and we sang and danced for HOURS. Just four of us. It was so much fun. We got to bed around 10pm because we had pickup for dentist clinic at 6:30am…
At 6am, my roommates broke through the door with a big slice of last night’s cake, a firework candle, and sang “Tu Cumpleaños” by La Nueva Escuela. I felt very celebrated and then we hopped into the bus bound for Santiago. There were about sixteen of us in the van.
In Santiago, we met the very kind American dentists. They explained the process to me, and showed me where I would help translate. I laughed as I walked back to the common room because it sometimes takes three tries before the girls understand what I am saying, and that’s without a drill lodged in their molars. Still, I did it! And no one lost a tooth. When I wasn’t translating, I played the card game ERS with M* and N*. Respectfully, I won’t let them win until they earn it. Which is to say, they didn’t win. But they are getting much better! They really like to play and it’s always a lot of fun. Too much fun, sometimes, because we got a small noise complaint from one of the caregivers, but in a cheeky way.

Not pictured: me in a hairnet and mask trying to translate
We gave up the game and played with the residential cat of the office building. Three of my great friends and I video-chatted before I got my teeth cleaned and it was great! The talking, not the examination, because turns out I had four cavities and I need a root canal done in the States. Disappointing!
The best part was after the dentist (although I had four four-hour numbing shots deadening my face for too long).
Joy organized a vision board night for the older girls in the program and some staff members. Magazines and glue sticks were stationed at different tables alongside tiny craft scissors. Joy told us to include: “Familia, sueños, planes por el futuro, profesión, educatión, espiritual, y salud.” Afterward, we presented our boards beneath the twinkly backyard lights.


In the girls group, we had aspiring fashion designers, volleyball lessons, health for their families, dreams of veterinary school, and more. N* drew a lamppost on her board, declaring one day she wants to be like a lamppost; shining a light on all those close to her. She said the day hasn’t come yet but it will. I felt so proud of her then.
The staff dreams of women of every nation wearing the bags made in the workshop, “so every girl can carry our story.” Joy dreams of more rescues; that NHG goes big—into every nation, tribe, and tongue that needs a successful model to enable rescues.
Before I went, a chocolate raspberry cake arrived with the firework candle. Joy sang the classic happy birthday song and others joined in Spanish. It was a perfect mix of the two languages. My birthday present was a bilingual bible—and I asked a few people to highlight their favorite verse. Here’s one:
“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” — 1 Peter 2:9.
When I got up to present my vision board, I couldn’t totally translate everything. So, for my profession, I said “I want to work with my mind and my heart.” My 23rd birthday reminds me of the extraordinary opportunity I’ve been given to do just that.
Goodness...I feel very loved!
Here’s to 23.

