Communication with Autistic Children

Below are some questions/phrases that I will use while trying to converse with the autistic children in Kunming, China.  These are only a few out of many phrases that I will prepare.  I know all these sentences by heart, but I wrote the translation below for those who cannot understand.

志愿者我跟孤独症孩子说话

你喜欢做什么?

What do you like?

你住在哪儿?

Where do you live?

你是哪少数民族?

What is your minority?

你喜欢不喜欢养宠物?

Do you like animals?

你喜欢狗吗?你喜欢猫吗?

Do you like dogs? Cats? 

我觉得你很聪明!

I think you are very smart!

你比我聪明!

You are smarter than me!

你很漂亮!

You are very pretty!

你很可爱! 

You are very cute!

你跟我一起画画。

Let’s draw together.

给我画一个故事。

Draw me a story.

画画你昨天做什么了。

Draw what you did yesterday.

I once saw a story on the news about a dog really helping an autistic child with communication.  The parents even communicated with their child through the dog!  It was a very interesting thing to see because the autistic child would not really talk with his parents except when they would “pretend” to be the dogs voice.   I know this is extremely unlikely, but I would looove to bring a nice trained dog with me to volunteer sometime.  All the dogs I have seen here in China are usually small, very obedient and never on a leash.   I heard that one of the Chinese teachers at the Keats School has 8 dogs...  MAYBE I will able to arrange that somehow... on some days...

I have also heard from my Chinese teacher that one autistic person drew his entire trip to New York.  I actually remember seeing that on the news!  I immediately learned how to say the last sentences above.  If I can communicate with the children through drawing and art that will be very helpful!

Starting Chinese Class

Yesterday I arrived in Kunming!  My flight was 3 hours from Shanghai.

我的飞机票

I decided that I would try and only use Chinese on my flight.  Because of this, I made another friend!  The man sitting beside me (his name was Chen Er-jia) saw that I was a foreigner but speaking Chinese so he began to talk with me.  I told him why I was traveling to Kunming and how I got a full scholarship to volunteer and study for 6 weeks.  Chen Er-jia told me that he is the Director/Manager of a  large Biology company that does importing/exporting from New York to China.  His son just finished his first year of college studying Landscaping in Europe.  Er-jia gave me his business card and contact information.  He told me that if I needed anything while I was in Kunming, I could ask him. 

I am actually surprising myself with how much Chinese I can understand and speak!! After we talked for a little while, he let me borrow a Chinese comic book called “Facebook.”  The “Social Network” was one of the stories in the comic book.  I wonder why there would be a story about Facebook in a Chinese magazine but still be blocked...hmmm.  But anyway, I began to review/practice my Chinese on the airplane while reading this interesting comic book.

Reviewing my Chinese on the airplane (复习中文)

I could only understand 50/50 but it was good practice anyway

My Keats School Chinese teacher picked me up from the airport. She immediately began speaking Chinese with me.  My brain began to literally hurt after a while of using Chinese so much... Now I really appreciate the fact that I do not need to think while speaking English.

Chinese Teacher (我的中文老师)

My bedroom (卧室) - no Air Conditioning but I have Wifi!

My bathroom (卫生间) - shower and toilet

Today (Monday) I began my first 4 hour Chinese Lessons (8:30am-12:30pm, Monday-Friday).  I really hope to drastically improve my Chinese by the end of 6 weeks!! 
I also learned that I will permantely be volunteering at a “School for Special Kids” (that is what the Keats School called it, but it is a school for autistic children).  At the moment, this is the place that requires the most need in Kunming.  I have never worked with autistic children before so it will definitely be a challenge.  I am ready, though!  This school is actually on a short break until next week.   So during this entire week, I will particularly focus my Chinese studies on communication with children.  Since they will be autistic children, it will be especially difficult to interact and communicate...hopefully a week of preparation will allow me to better assist them and be their friend. 
Keep watching my blog for updates on my volunteer work with the children!

Finally made it…

After a day of plane rides, airports, loosing my iPod, and making three new friends, I’M FINALLY in China!

Last stop in the United States

Shout out to Elliot Holden who I met on my flight from Atlanta to Los Angeles.  His trip ended in LA and was only 5 hours, but what we had in common was we were both on our way to pursuing our dreams and doing what we love.  Elliot is in LA trying to get his music (www.lunarblush.com) on “Vampire Diaries” (one of my favorite shows EVER) and “Pretty Little Liars.”  Very cool.

Got the Passport and necessities to keep me healthy and knocked out

Visa and Boarding Pass

And ready to board my 14 hour flight!

Translation on the plane made me feel like I was already in China...

Shout out to Emily who I talked to on my flight from LA to Shanghai.  She is a Senior at Western Kentucky University and staying in Shanghai for 6 weeks to study abroad with a Business group.

Emily and me at the Shanghai Pu Dong Airport

I was so happy to finally land in China.  It was one of the longest trips I’ve ever had...

There is a reason you can barely see anything... so much pollution

And finally shout out to Zheng Xiao, who I met on my 3 hour bus ride from Shanghai to Hangzhou.  She just graduated with her Undergraduate degree in Marketing in Hangzhou.  Xiao will begin studying for her Graduate degree in Boston, MA this September.  It will be her first time traveling outside of China so she asked me a lot of questions about how life is like in America.  She had interesting stereotypes of Americans – like how everyone eats a ton of meat and no vegetables, and stores close at 6pm everyday...haha!  Unfortunately I was not able to get a picture with her =

Right now it is 1am here and I am WIDE awake... but I guess I should get some sleep if I want to adjust to the time before I fly to Kunming, China to start my volunteer work and studies.  More posts soon to come!

I’m going to China!

Only FIVE more days until I am on my way to the airport to leave for China!  It almost feels like yesterday when I was in China with the Belmont Study Abroad group last summer...

I am on the front-right side

The total trip duration will be 23 hours long... so even though I am leaving Wednesday morning, I will not be in China until Thursday evening (Thursday morning in Nashville).  I will stop in Shanghai for a couple of days until I fly to my final destination – Kunming. 

I am so excited to be going back for the third time and cannot wait to start volunteering in the local community and working on my Chinese!  I knew I was definitely going to China again this summer and am so fortunate and blessed to have the Lumos Scholarship funding my entire trip!!  So in a few days I am going to say good-bye to America (and facebook since it is still blocked in China) for 6 weeks!!  I will be updating this blog often, so keep watch for stories, pictures and possibly even some videos!

Less than a month away….

I leave the country July 16th and there still seems to be so many unanswered questions. Will I get my visa in time? This is the most pressing question because without a visa I cannot go. The other questions such as what if I decide to go for less time is less pressing because I know regardless I am going and I can go even if I decide to stay nine months instead of the original year that I had plan.

Things have changed dramatically since last December when I accepted the Lumos Award to teach overseas in South Africa. Most importantly, the guy that I was dating at the time is now my boyfriend and things have gotten pretty serious. I was even considering not going because of him but when it came down to it, I knew in my heart that I had to go. The question of going for a shorter amount of time has been played with but I never sat down to figure it out and it turns out if I would have made this decision earlier it would have been a lot easier. Right now, I don’t know what will happen to my award if I decide to go for nine months instead of a year. My guess is that it will decrease and while that will suck 🙁 I still think it’s worth it if it means I’ll still get to go for a extended amount of time but come back earlier so I can start life on my own.

One of my main concerns about going abroad is the whole money thing. I just graduated from Belmont but choosing to accept this award means that I have no money coming in for a year (or nine months) and as an extremely independent young graduate I want to avoid going back home by ANY means necessary. So accepting the award was a risk in itself. It’s hard to find a job while you’re in the States, imagine trying to do it from thousands of miles away. Needless to say, I am looking NOW. People might think that’s a little excessive but I was told the same thing when I was looking for a job (or at least what to do after graduation) my fall semester of my senior year.  It worked out then and I’m praying that this will work out too.

Me and some of the fabulous kids I worked with

As for as the project itself, I know I’m going to love it once I’m there but all the paperwork and the money and the logistics seriously take away from the awesome experience. I know it’s going to be great. I went to South Africa before my fall semester of my junior year and it was the amazing (Check out my blog from then at coming2sa.blogspot.com). I went on a safari, bungee jumped, learned how to surf and sandboard, the list goes on and on. But one of my favourite experiences was tutoring at a local school which just happened to be two houses over from where I lived. I tutored elementary-aged learners for most of my time there and it was this experience that I cannot wait to do again.

The main purpose of my specific project is to teach, a career path that I am exploring. I loved it then and I hope that by getting more experience in the classroom, it will help me decide if this is indeed what I want to do with my life. I am anxious for this journey to begin. I’ll be back soon with developments about my visa and how long I decide to stay.

I’m Home!

Well I’m back! Stateside again and acclamating very well.  I would like everyone to note in the minutes that I am a very skilled airport-er now and can handle the airport like a big kid. Customs was still very scary. Saying goodbye at the airport to the poeople that had become my adopted mom and dad for three months was sad, but not as sad as you would think. It’s not because I don’t love them, it’s because I know I will see them again. They are in my life now, a permanent part of my journey (as is Dove) and it wasn’t goodbye just see you soon!

I am forever grateful for the things I have learned and experienced in the Dominican Republic. I am so thankful for Lumos and Cynthia and Dr. Monteverde for providing me with the support  I needed to make this happen.  I am thankful to Nini, Dea, Marlenis, Terry and Demaris for taking me under their wing and allowing me to be apart of their families. It wouldn’t have been the same without them. I am thankful for Liz, James, Chulo and Bella my family who loved me through all of my moments and created a billion memories with me. I am also so thankful to every little face that let me be apart of their lives for three months, they let me teach and they taught me, I am so grateful. Lastly, I am thankful for my family and friends stateside that supported me in this adventure and welcomed me home with open arms.

I have learned so many things from this experience, but one of the biggest things I may have learned is that you can live that life you want. There is a plan for you and it is a huge adventure that you can make happen. This trip seemed crazy last December when I started thinking about going and one year later  have come and gone there.  I am now even more excited for the next amazing thing I will get to do.

I would also like to leave a challenge. If you are reading this you have more than most. You have been blessed by being lucky enough not to be born in a third world country. Use that blessing to help someone else. You don’t have to travel like  I did, but you do have a gift that you can use in some way. I would encourage you (whoever you are) to find that gift, tap into it and use t to help someone else!

I’m not sure if this will be my last blog so check back. I will def be giving a convo at Belmont in Jan. so more info to come on that 🙂

Moto Mix

I realize this may be coming a little late, but I wanted to share this with everyone. When I became a very skilled moto rider I started listening to my ipod as we drove through the city. Here is my play list for a most excellent moto ride.

Hey Monday  I Don’t Want to Dance

All Tme Low  Stella

B.O.B  Magic

Half Priced Hearts  Summer of Love

Half Priced Hearts  Tell Me So

Ellie Goulding Lights

This mixtape also works for most excellent car rides!

Mustard Seed

Mustard Seed is the name of the very first pre-school I ever attended. It was a great experience. I only went for half a day and some days (most days) my grandmother would stop and get me lunch at this little local place called Jinny’s. It’s one of my first memories.

Mustard Seed  also happens to be the name of a home for disabled children here in the DR. We spent the morning there today and it was fantastic. I have often found that I can be sort of ungraceful in situations where I’m not sure what to do and today I was fumbling. What was amazing was that the people that run Mustard Seed were so wonderful and helped me to just jump right in talking to the kids and just giving them hugs. Sometimes, especially here, kids are cared for but don’t get a lot of physical attention because parents are so busy doing other things. Just the human touch, rubbing there hands, holding them, made a difference. There were so wonderful and it was a brilliant experience.

The Mustard Seed was started years ago by a Jamaican couple who had already started a similar program in their home country and wanted to start one in the DR. They literally started in a hut with a dirt floor just taking in kids that they found or were dropped off at their door. They really had no means to be undergoing that kind of endeavor, but they made it and saved the lives of so many kids. It has now grown to the home it is now with special chairs built just for kids with special needs, a full staff and a safe loving home.

I am so glad I got to go today!

Salsa, Bachata, Merengue

I’ve heard people say that dance is art in motion. Well, this is not the kind of art you would find in a fine gallery in some swanky down town area. This is the kind of art you see in someone’s home and have to ask “Where did you find this?” Then you they tell you, “Oh, my daughter, she does this and her grandfather before her and it’s just  in our family.”  You leave their house feeling like you have shared something special and that they have given you a gift.

Watching people spin and dip to the sound of Dominican music was this art;this gift. We went to a Rancho Tipico, which is the common name for a dance hall. They play music very loud, so loud in fact you can’t talk to the person next to you. It’s ok though, you’re not there to talk, you’re there to dance. The worst dancers on the floor look like seasoned professionals and the best dancers perform with the ease and grace of someone who has been doing it their whole life.

These dances aren’t taught. Everyone here dances. It’s an expression of joy and a way to literally step away from the stressors of life. There was no fighting, no air of conflict. There were only people doing what these people have done forever and to me it was art.

Lola’s House

There is a grandmother here named Lola. Lola is not tall. I think in her younger days she must have been 5’4”, but time has pushed her down to 5’2”.  She has long brown hair that is mostly covered by the hairs that have turned snowy white that she wears pulled back in a bun. Lola is kind and loving and when she hugs you she makes you feel warmand safe like how a good mother does. At Lola’s house there are 16 children.  She is their protector, provider and teacher. Lola’s children are the most well behaved and respectful, yet their personalities are not stifled. They are the product of a loving home and a strong woman. Lola came to pick up her monthly food allowance last week and brought 6 of the children with her. They dance around Lola in the way Earth dances around the Sun. Orbiting in reverence and love. She is one of the most remarkable people I have met here and I haven’t even had a full conversation with her. I have grown to know her children very well and they are beautiful. There are 18 children in our orphanage in Haiti, in Lola’s house there are 16 children.